birth trauma therapy in kansas & missouri

You feel powerless at a time you need care the most. This stage of life was supposed to be beautiful, but right now it feels like gritting your teeth.

It may seem like your friends & family are walking on eggshells around you. Or they hand you the pastel-wrapped platitudes that make you want to scream:
  • "All that matters is a healthy baby."
  • "At least you’re okay now."
  • "You’ll forget the hard parts soon."

But your body remembers & your nervous system remembers.

Whether you had a traumatic birth experience, your postpartum recovery feels like a cruel joke, iron infusions & magnesium mentions make you cringe, or the baby you imagined never made it into your arms, you’re carrying more than anyone can see.

The birth you dreamed of is now a story that never happened.

The trust you once had — in your body, in your support team, in your providers — feels fractured.

The innocence dissolved the second the room turned from calm to crisis.

And now? You might feel:
  • Replay your birth over & over, searching for the moment everything went wrong
  • Avoid certain roads, smells, or sounds because they yank you right back into the delivery room
  • Feel rage when people say “At least you and the baby are healthy”
  • Notice your body tense whenever you hear a baby cry, even if it’s not your own
  • Have a sudden rush of panic during follow-up appointments or ultrasounds for another pregnancy
  • Avoid conversations about birth altogether because they feel like ripping open a wound
  • Keep your story bottled up because you don’t want to upset anyone — or you’re scared they won’t believe you
  • Feel like you’re watching life from the outside

This grief deserves to be witnessed. You deserve to be witnessed.

And all of this?
Still happens while life just . . . keeps going.
It’s maddening. & it’s lonely.

At Holding New Therapy, we’re not here to rush you toward “closure”. (What even is that?)

We’ll sit with you in the messy middle, a place to:
  • say your baby’s name (if you have one)
  • speak your grief honestly, without being rushed or silenced
  • honor your experience — whether it was a few weeks ago or many years ago
  • begin healing in a way that fits you, not what others expect

We understand how complicated this grief can be. Some days you may want to talk about it. Some days you may not.

Both are welcome here.


  • Make sense of what happened—without minimizing or spiritualizing it
  • Rebuild trust in your body & your story (& maybe your ability to keep going)
  • Navigate anniversaries, due dates, baby showers, pregnancy announcements, & medical trauma
  • Find new ways to connect with your partner or support system
  • Carry your grief without letting it swallow who you are becoming

therapy after a pregnancy loss or a neonatal loss can help you:

start rebuildingstart rebuilding your new normal
Let’s be clear:
Healing doesn’t mean forgetting.
It means learning to live alongside your love & your loss.

You’ve already been through the unthinkable. finding a therapist for pregnancy or infant loss shouldn’t feel like another impossible task.

Let’s honor who & what was lost — & what still lives in you.

it's time to honor & heal

We’re committed to making therapy for new parents accessible. All of our sessions are held virtually to reduce barriers like transportation, childcare, finances, location, & mobility needs. If there’s anything we can do to better support your access to care (communication preferences, tech accommodations, website adjustments, etc), please let us know at admin@holdingnewtherapy.com.