therapy during infertility & trying to conceive in kansas & missouri

Maybe you're relying on medicine & science to build the family you’ve always dreamed of. Maybe you imagined seeing two pink lines right away.

Most everyone around you says things wrapped in silver linings that cut deeper than they realize:
  • "Just relax & it’ll happen."
  • "At least you know you can get pregnant.”
  • "Drink some wine or take a vacation."
  • “Why don’t you just adopt?”

This path is not what you expected — and it’s harder than anyone tells you.

You’ve been trying for months or years. You’ve attend consult after consult to explain the unexplained: infertility, IUI, IVF, PCOS, endometriosis, male factor, egg quality, secondary infertility. Your medical vocabulary expanded in a way you ever wanted. (& yes, that’s infuriating.)

infertility is a loss that keeps renewing itself.

trying to conceive feels like a cycle of grief you never signed up for.

mourning timelines, age gaps, predictability, finances, & that once-innocent belief that wanting a baby would be enough.


You may feel:
  • Stuck in two-week waits that consume your life
  • Isolated in friendships that suddenly revolve around baby showers and due dates
  • Envious or angry (& then guilty for both)
  • Like your body is betraying you
  • Disconnected from your partner or unsure how to even talk about what this is doing to you
  • Lacking intimacy because sex is robotic after awhile
  • Tired of trying to “stay positive” when it feels like hope just hurts

Life keeps moving forward — while you’re still waiting.

& through all of it?

Whether you’re partnered or solo, queer or straight, using your own body or someone else’s, you deserve support that understands how layered this journey can be.

At Holding New Therapy, we don’t show up with empty hope or quick fixes.

We’ll sit with you in the in-between, the month-to-month space where you're grieving, hoping, doubting, & starting over, again & again.

A space where you can:
  • Speak the truth of your experience without softening it
  • Talk about the anger, the numbness, the hope, the shame — all of it
  • Be supported whether you’re starting your fertility journey or deep in the middle of it
  • Begin healing without giving up on what matters most to you

We’re trained (& personally aware) of how complex this kind of grief can be — & how invisible it often feels.

  • Cope with the emotional toll of cycles, procedures, uncertainty, & loss
  • Vent (& process) the physical impact of trigger shots, daily stims, vaginal ultrasounds, & hormones
  • Reconnect with your body (even when it feels like a battleground)
  • Navigate medical trauma, failed treatments, & well-meaning but harmful comments
  • Explore your identity, values, and what building a family means to you
  • Stay grounded in your relationships when stress, timing, & disappointment are overwhelming

therapy during infertility & ttc can help you:

feel more groundedfeel more grounded & connected
Let’s be clear:
There is nothing wrong with you. Nothing to be fixed.

This sh*t is just hard & it's okay to not walk through it alone.

infertility & mental health doesn't need to be something you carry in silence.

Let’s hold space for all that you’re longing for — & all the strength it takes to keep going.

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We’re committed to making therapy for new parents accessible. All of our sessions are held virtually to reduce barriers like transportation, childcare, finances, location, & mobility needs. If there’s anything we can do to better support your access to care (communication preferences, tech accommodations, website adjustments, etc), please let us know at admin@holdingnewtherapy.com.